Okay, I’m usually not sure of other peoples kids. Its easier to get annoyed at them but still I often smile when I see a strange baby or some other person’s toddler or preschooler galavanting around.
But as nice as kids are to have, the more important thing is being able to raise them right and the problem is that a lot of people have kids and don’t consider that.
They don’t consider whether they have the resources or patience or skill or support or anything else to put the kid on a good path.
Too many people have kids for reasons like this:
- Hold on to a man they are afraid of losing/pin down a woman at home that man is afraid of losing
- Because kids are so cute (or worse yet, “my kids are too big to cuddle now and I want something new to play with while I make them fend for themselves”)
- Because I can
- Because I don’t care to be responsible enought to bother with birth control.
- Because if I can’t afford it, the state will pay/I can give it away/the other parent will take care of it while I split.
Having kids and raising them is a huge responsibility. I see some Christian brothers and sisters online who seem to think that the problem with today’s youth is that they don’t marry soon enough. These folks think that if kids got married and had kids earlier they’d be more responsible. I shudder to think of that. I think of big families in my extended family tree where they started young and what happened was a lot of bad parenting because there wasn’t enough maturity, or time for the kids…and then older kids are placed into parental or baby sitting roles that they aren’t ready for. I’m all for pitching in, but there were folks in my family in recent generations that basically handed the babies off to the older kids and didn’t do crap themselves half the time.
God entrusts us with these new lives and he expects us to take care of them and to take the job seriously. To do anything less is an affront and an insult.